How to Love Life Again

When change happens, we do not always know how to deal with it. That is especially true with death. Losing someone or something we love, e.g. a spouse, a child, a friend, a pet, or perhaps even your job can be very difficult. Life changes in ways we may never have contemplated. When this happens, and it will happen to everybody sometime in their lives, how do we deal with all the emotions? How do we move on with our own lives? How do we begin to love life again?

Below are five steps to begin that process.

STEP 1: You Can Do It
The first step is to acknowledge the possibility that you can make it through whatever difficulties you face. While grief consists of five distinct stages, very few people will go through those stages one after the other. You might experience them one by one or several at the same time. People process grief in their own time and in their own way. What does this mean for you? Well, it means that you may acknowledge you can make it through moment by moment over and over again.

STEP 2: Feel Your Emotions
Really feel them, then reach for the emotion that is just one step lighter than what you are feeling now, e.g. one step lighter than fear, grief, depression, despair, and powerlessness are insecurity, guilt, and unworthiness. Now that may not seem any better and yet step by step you will begin to feel a little bit better. This does not occur overnight, but it does happen.

STEP 3: Find the Music
Make room in your life to include music that feeds your soul. Include music that lets you express your anger, your depression, your giddiness, or whatever emotion you are feeling at the moment. Especially good is laughter. You know the kind: the cheek hurting, belly aching bellow of laughter, the kind that brings tears to your eyes. When it is over, it is a relief just to stop laughing! Ahhh....

STEP 4: Go for the Support
Reach out to someone who will support you. This may not be who you expect. You just might find a very special friend by venturing out to others. Go out for lunch or dinner. Spend hours on the phone talking about all kinds of things. Find someone who will let you talk as much as you need, someone who will really listen. Another form of support to consider is Hospice. Look them up in your local phone book. They have an incredible amount of knowledge and support available.

STEP 5: Dare to dream.
Imagine your world the way you would like it to be in the future and write it down. Then take one action every day towards that dream. On some days the action you take may be as simple as reading your dreams over and over again. And, remember, it is okay if your dreams keep changing. If the step you take today does not feel right, well, then change directions and take just one more step. What is most important is that you do take one action step toward the future that you choose.

These five steps are really very simple, but I will guarantee you that they are not always easy. I will also guarantee that you are worth every beautiful step you take towards your dream.

Being Crazy in Love

Unknowingly, we often put an imaginary wall in between our perfect partner and ourselves, thinking that this is the only way that we can get protected from pain. While inside this makeshift bubble, we ask ourselves, "What does it really take to be in love?" After reading all Shakespearean sonnets and memorizing all the love songs in the radio, the same grueling question still reverberates in our minds. Yet in truth, the answer is simple and it only relies on our choices.

Let loose. Unfetter your inhibitions and welcome all the feelings that love has to offer. Sometimes, we are constricting ourselves with that perfect concept of finding the one and possibly lifting ourselves up from single life. We have our personal ideal concepts of the perfect marriage, the best Valentines date, the preeminent soul mate and the ultimate boyfriend.

We engross ourselves with too much poetry and disguise that we forget how "luv" used to be dangerous and fun. Being crazy in love makes all the difference in the world of passion and romance. Yes, fairytales do present visions of perfection in princes and dukes, but in reality, you can find more ardor and desire in the boy next door or the tattooed guy on the motorcycle. Erase all your reticence and fear and let go of something that puts you away from possible relationships. Take a risk and be free of prospects and anticipation. Once you do all these, you'd be surprised as to how love can be so endearing and enlightening so long as you receive it with open arms.

Keeping Love Healthy with Money Problems

Money may not everything, but it also isn’t just anything. It helps us not only to survive, but also allows us to enjoy other luxuries and do many enjoyable things with the ones we love. Money also gives us the strength and confidence to chase after our dreams and assists us in making them come true.

When money is short such as in the credit crunch and debt is involved however, it can affect your romantic relationship, no matter how much you and your partner may love each other. This is because when you go from a life of comfort to a life of struggle and unwanted change, it creates stress for everyone involved and patience can be short. When patience is short, it causes people to be easily annoyed with each other and they tend to snap at each other quickly due to all the worries on their mind.

Can money problems and a credit crunch ruin a good romantic connection? It can- but it doesn’t have to! With all the financial trouble out there today, it is very likely you will find yourself in some money trouble sooner or later. Naturally, both you and your partner are going to feel concerned and stressed out about it, and that’s okay. The only important effort you both need to make is to do whatever it takes to avoid turning on each other and playing blame games, and instead work together love creditin taking care of your financial situation. As unpleasant as it may be, you both will have to make certain changes in order to keep your heads above water until your situation improves. This includes budgeting on things you never had to before and finding less expensive ways to enjoy life.

Work together in finding romantic things to do together that cost less. It is essential that you keep your romance alive and healthy during rough times and not allow money obstacles to tear you and your love apart. Tackle your money problems together, but do not neglect your love life. Make dates to do something nice together that will not out a strain on any of your wallets. For example, you can reserve a certain night for “movie night”, rent some movies and cuddle on the couch together with some sweet snacks. You could also cook up a romantic dinner at home, or go out for dinner and come home for dessert. There are many things you can do- the point is to be attentive to your relationship and not get drowned in your money worries. There is time to work on finances and time to enjoy your relationship. Your passion for each other should not go on hold and there is no need to turn against each other, because this is something you both can tackle and conquer together- as a loving couple.

Things to Remember:

How you felt about each other when you first fell in love and focus on why you love each other in the first place

* Remember how supportive you both were of each other when things were going well. It is time to now supportive of each other through struggling times too.
* Remember that it takes two to keeps things good or to make them go sour. Team work is the key!
* Always be open to listen to one another, even if you do not always agree. Ignoring things, blaming each other or closing up to what the other has to say will not make your money problems go away and could actually make it worse in more ways than one.
* Tackle this together and come up with a plan you both like to help you both get back on track.

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How One Feels Crazy In Love?

Passionate love creates many feelings. In passionate love, lovers are even ready to give away their life. Passionate love neither recognizes logic nor it follows any norms. You must have read stories that told how a poor boy fell in love with a princess and ultimately won her over. Love that reaches heights of passion is beyond any advice.

No one can communicate with such lovers because their mind is closed to any talk of separation.

What kind of love is that? How a sensible person begins behaving strangely. Can such love be compared with addictions? A person before any addiction is sensible, logical and, follows norms and acts normal. After getting addicted a drug, people rob; commit theft and what ever else they need to do to get the drug. Without the drug they cannot live. The withdrawal symptoms are equally uncontrollable and have to be managed under medical supervision.

To try and persuade a drug addict to leave the drug is a difficult task that has to be accomplished over period of time. It is not as simple as asking - please stop using this drug, and he/she will comply. It requires real effort, persuasion and therapy to achieve that. Is love that has reached passionate heights comparable?

It looks as if the effects are same, the longing is same and the separation is equally painful. Being crazy in love means total dependence on the beloved. No moment goes without his/her thought and every attempt will be made to win him/her over. If for any reason, the beloved cannot be won, the consequences can be equally bad unless helped with therapy.

Why Use a Love Spell? You Do not Need Crazy Love

Love is a feeling which you have little or no control over. It has made many people commit suicide, sell plots of land and remain bankrupt. It makes most people to behave in an abnormal manner. To the people around them they act stupid but to themselves they are only responding to some queer forces. Extreme crazy love is usually associated with love spells. A love spell is dangerous because it is like your life stands still and all that is important is the other person. It becomes endless love. This is usually used by people who their love is un reciprocated. It is a bad feeling to love somebody who does not love you back. It can even cause a bad heart disease. Love spells are also used in revenge missions. I have heard of married women who have used love spells on their promiscuous drunkard husbands in a trial to tame them.

People who are subjected to love spells become real slaves of the other partners. In most cases, no amount of verbal abuse or even physical abuse that is enough to make the love disappear. The endless love cannot be easily reverted and it mostly calls for intervention from friends and relatives. It is the extreme form of crazy love. I once read a story about a girl who was subjected to a love spell when she was sixteen years old. The amount of audacity and courage she explained left my mouth agape. She used to escape from school at the middle of the night, jump over electric fences amidst much darkness and run over the bushes only to have a glance at a teenage boy.

Love spells blind your eye in such a way that you are not responsive to any amount of mistreatment. She used to be beaten over a small quarrel and she even miscarried. Her mother was very touched that she had to save her from the hands of death. She got her a school far away from the bustard and her life continued. What disappointed me was her confession that she still had love feeling towards the guy but she restrains herself. This means that love which is influenced by a spell is endless love. It is very unfair to see someone struggling to free herself from crazy love and yet she can't.

Crazy love is very disturbing especially if you do not need it. Love spells are known to mess people's lives. There should be a social court where such offenders are judged and persecuted. Love should come from within without any external forces. That is the real true love which you should celebrate. It does not feel good to be loved by someone because you had to use a love spell on her. You live feeling guilty since endless love will haunt her for a life time. It is not possible to revert the already done damage. Be patient with life and with the advent of dating sites you will find love so effortlessly.

Give Love to Other People

I personally feel much more content and happy with myself when I am sharing love with others. There is not enough love giving in our world I am noticing more and more everyday. Why is this happening?

I have seen many articles written on love and most of them either revolve around religion or sexual relationships. Today I want to talk about love that everyone is capable of giving and receiving.

Sometimes I personally feel those without any religious background give love to other people more freely, mainly because they accept others for who they are as a person. To only accept others on what their belief systems you are actually shutting yourself off from some valuable life skills, these are the ones that help you connect with others.

Life is way to short to being sitting around hating and judging. Don't let things that have happened in the past stop you from having a loving future. If we want to have less dysfunction in our world we have to stop the cycle of hate and give love to other people.

Shame on the many religious people who can't help but to judge others. Judgment is a sign of you own in adequate feelings and hate well this also goes back to how you feel about yourself.

Now I'm not saying that life will ever be perfect. It can't be or there would be nothing for us to learn we would just be existing. But we can make choices to love ourselves warts and all and give love to other people.

Of course there will be times when we will all struggle to maintain a loving life, especially when we lose a loved one or are let down by others. Do you think hard times in your life is a good reason to not give love to other people?

I certainly don't think so, it can actually give your more strength to get through your hard times. To give love to other people can be done in so many ways. You don't have to make it this huge thing that you can only share with those close to you.

If you maintain a loving attitude and share your smiles and well wishes with others you are giving love to other people. If you stop to see if someone is alright when you are out and about this is being loving. Which means you can give love to other people.

Why are we so afraid of sharing this wonderful emotion with others? Is there really anything to lose from be loving?

Remember we learn through every experience so even the times you did give love to other people and it was not received positively, there was something to learn. Do you think it was to not love again?

No way we are made to be loving creatures, no matter who we are, what we do or where we live. I know this is an area in everyone's life that always needs adjustments. Imagine the change in this world if more people were concerned with what they were giving and not what they want for themselves next.

So helpfully you get the importance of why we should give love to other people. All people have so much good in them and imagine what feeling loved can bring out for those not receiving enough.

I hope you enjoyed this, keep smiling and never stop giving love to others.

Love and Freedom

One of the defining themes of my adult life has been this something that I refer to as Love. When the universe forced me into personal crisis a few years ago, it slowly became apparent that a key issue was love. Ever since then, my life has become, in one form or another, a meditation on love:

What is love?
How do I love myself?
Why does my heart feel broken?
Will I ever feel loved?
How do I love and be loved?
Does love exist?
Is it just an idea, or is it something real?

So far, I have learned much through this meditation; I have learned much on this journey. This article is designed to help you explore the contours of love in your life, so that you can enjoy the gift that is everyone’s birthright, the gift that the universe wants to give you.

In my experience, learning to love yourself is an essential step on this path of love. It is the first step because if you hate yourself, you can’t go anywhere. But how do we love ourselves? When I was first told to love myself, I had no idea what that meant, nor how to go about it. Love myself? You might as well have been speaking a foreign language. Loving yourself does not mean that you indulge every desire, whim, or impulse. Nor does it mean that you become infatuated with yourself, per se.

Loving yourself means that you take good care of yourself. It means you get rid of all those false voices that say you are defective, incompetent, unattractive, unlovable—whatever it may be. You begin to see more clearly negative voices of conditioning, and you discover that they are nothing other than conditioning. You slowly learn to break free from them, affirming your inherent self-worth, not because you have done anything or are any particularly way. You are inherently loveable simply because you exist. It is your birthright; it is the gift of being a human being. You accept yourself as you are, and allow yourself to grow and change in the direction of greater peace and harmony.

Self-hatred creates destruction and discontent. As you learn to love yourself, you break free from these negative tendencies and learn to treat yourself with the dignity and respect that is due to every human being.

As you learn to love yourself, as your own heart heals, the natural impulse is for love to flow outward. Your relationships begin to change. You begin to share love with other people. You begin to discover that love does most certainly exist. Yet this love is not a commodity. It is not something that can be earned through merit. Love just shows up. It shows up sometimes on this path of life. You might experience it with your best friend or your lover, maybe a child, or even a parent. As you explore it, you will discover that the love is there first. The love just shows up, and then you find out why it is there.

If you have ever had a particularly close love relationship, maybe with a dear friend, you will see how this is the case. Chances are you felt an attraction, a pull, a love toward that particular person. As you get to know them more and more, you discover that the love is there for a reason. Maybe it is there to teach you something, to help you grow, to help you change. Now the fact is that love is always there, has always been there and will always be there. It is simply easier to experience in relation to other people with whom you have a heart connection.

The biggest challenge with love for most people is the desire to cling, the desire to keep this something that we call love. Yet continual change is the nature of everything. So you must learn to relax on this path of love. You must learn to relax and allow love to come and go, to ebb and flow as it may. In this way, love can lead you to greater and greater freedom. You enjoy being with your friends, your family, your lover, but you also know how to be alone. When you are together, there is love. When you are alone, there is also love. You let everyone be free to do as they may. You are free to be as you are; to do as you do. They are free to be as they are; to do as they do. When you come together, it is a beautiful sharing. When you are apart, it is also lovely. You learn to float with the tide of love, coming and going, enjoying and relaxing.

You slowly learn to love the love. You learn to follow the love. If love leads you into yourself for a while, go there. If love leads you to particular people for some time, go there. If it then leads you elsewhere, just follow the love. For ultimately, you are love itself, only most of us do not know it. As you learn to follow love, you discover that it always guides you, teaches you, and informs you.

In speaking of love in relationships, one of my beloved spiritual teachers, Sri Nisargaddatta Maharaj said the following:

“You are neither the husband nor the wife. You are the love between the two.”

Allow your life to be a journey, an exploration. Inquire into this something called love; this force that permeates everything. Explore it within yourself; explore it outside of yourself. Follow it where it leads you, and you are guaranteed to learn something that you don’t already know. You are guaranteed to learn something about life, about love, about yourself, and about everyone else.

May love fill your heart always.