Story about Crazy Love

It was 6.pm in the evening. Almost every worker was getting set to leave the office after a hectic day. Noise of chatting workers was heard throughout the company’s complex. Everyone was happy that the working day had come and gone. As the evening was gradually giving way for eerie darkness, most workers had left, and reduced was the silence.

At the extreme of the office of Accounts was a very beautiful, slim, elegantly dressed lady with long dark hairs neatly rolled as a bond on the gap of her head. She had just finished with her work and was leaving for home too. She strode to the outside car park where her brand new and latest model of Toyota Camry was parked. As she inserted the key into the door key lock, an attractive and gorgeously dressed young man walked to her.

‘Hi pretty’ the gentleman greeted with a smooth smile.
‘Hi’ Nancy reciprocated reluctantly trying to remember if she has ever met the young man before.
‘I know you are trying to remember if you have ever met me before’, Am I right?’ the gentleman teased.

‘May be you are right, but please who are you and why did you decide to talk to me?’ Nancy enquired gently. Nancy who although looked a bit embarrassed by the stranger, however, could not look down on his charming face and romantic approach. What is this guy up to? She thought.

The more the stranger smiled at her the more she felt like something within her was trying to draw her to him. She tried as much as to ignore his smooth smile, but the stranger kept smiling as if he could read what was in her mind and knew how she felt.

‘I’m Kevin’ he introduced himself. Nancy felt like she should not tell him her name for sake of fear, but she couldn’t just resist any thing about him.
‘Hum… I’m Nancy’ she said shyly.

‘It’s my pleasure meeting you, Nancy’

‘It’s my pleasure too’
‘I understand how you feel. Perhaps I got you at a wrong time’ Kevin apologized.

‘Oh no! I’m okay’ she countered.

‘By the way how did you notice me and came to this place? She interrogated gently.

‘Love and destiny’ he answered smiling.

‘What do you mean? Nancy enquired.

‘I’ve been a secret admirer for over four days’. He admitted.

‘Don’t tell me you are teasing me’ Nancy said.
‘Nancy I’m not teasing you. I’m serious and besides you are beautiful and I love you’ Kevin flattered.
‘Thank you for the compliments, but I think you are taking the discussion too far. We have just met and we have not known each other well and you are talking of a relationship already?’ Nancy spoke diplomatically.
I’d just come out of a relationship having shattered emotions and my life torn into pieces, but I just can’t resist Kevin. He’s handsome, oratical, charming and besides there is something about him that sends fire within my being she thought. Nancy felt like flinging herself into his arms and at the same time thought of not being seen as cheap.

However, she was on fire.
‘Nancy, I don’t truly need that long protocol. I know what I want. There is something special about you that I like. And I strongly believe you are the woman of my life’ Kevin said seriously.

‘I hope you are not flattering me’

‘No, Nancy, I ‘m in love with you. Beautiful and very intelligent girls like you deserve love and care, and not games. Please let me show you love and how caring I’m’ Kevin entreated. Nancy’s heart began to beat faster. She felt like she had just won a jackpot worth millions of dollars.

‘Well in as much as I would want us to have a relationship, nevertheless, I need some time to think over it’

‘No problem. You can give yourself time as much as you want to think’ Kevin replied. ‘Okay! Please I got to go home now. Where do you live so that I could give you a ride’ she pleaded with him.

‘Thanks Nancy, I’ve come with my car. That’s it parked over the other side of the road’ He explained. Kevin gave Nancy his card and received hers too. Nancy got into her car bade him farewell and drove home.

Kevin departed for his own car too. Driving home, Nancy was betwixt fear and joy ‘Am I doing the right thing? I’ve just come out of a relationship and here am I dying already for a man I know nothing about. But I’m beginning to like … to love him. He’s just irresistible. I know Damien cheated on me after we had been in love for two years. Ah! Some men could be heartless. Oh my God, I just don’t know how to turn Kevin down. May be I should give him a chance. Who knows what the future holds for anybody. He might turn being the prince charming I’ve always dreamt of, she told herself. As soon as Nancy got home she called Kevin to let him know that she has consented and wouldn’t mind to develop a relationship with him. Kevin invited her to dine with him at one luxurious restaurant the following evening. Nancy honored his invitation and they enjoyed themselves.

‘Nancy, how did you see this place? Do you like it?’ Kevin asked.

‘Yeah, it’s great here!’ She replied.
‘Nancy, I’m glad you came and most importantly you are giving me a chance to show you my love.’ He appreciated.

‘Please don’t tell me that you don’t have any girl in your life,’
She enquired.

‘I had one a year ago. I loved her and I was very committed to her in a relationship that lasted over a year. We had plans to marry and we were already working on it when she suddenly left me for a guy she said was her first love in college years ago. That’s how our relationship was broken’ Kevin narrated.
‘How did you carry on with your life? Didn’t you have another girl in your life since then? Nancy enquired curiously.

‘No, I felt cheated and I promised myself never to get involved into any serious relationship until I met you yesterday’ Kevin explained.
‘Since you’ve met me now what makes you think you will not treat me casually.’ She queried.

‘I have just learnt that love has two facets. We have the good side and the crazy side. Nancy, please believe me, I’m in for a genuine love. I want to marry you’ Kevin implored.

Even though Nancy was secretly pleased with the idea of marriage, however, she had some reservations because she thought Kevin was too fast about everything and that she needed more time to study him and know if they were compatible.

‘Kevin, don’t you think you are too fast about this? However, I have just come out of a relationship and I’m afraid to develop one, not even soon’ Nancy explained in a tone that indicated she was worried.

‘Please Nancy tell me your story’ Kevin begged.

‘Oh Kevin, it is such a bad experience I never like to remember. Please could we discuss something else’ she implored.

Kevin grabbed her two hands to comfort and reassure her of his love.

‘Nancy, I truly sympathize with you. However, you must carry on. Life must continue. Please look into my eyes. We both have had similar experiences. We were truly out for love and in love, unfortunately with the wrong persons. Now those fates have brought us together I think we could make it up with each other for good. Nancy, believe me we can make it together. Please let’s give ourselves the chance’ Kevin persuaded.

Kevin’s discourse reassured Nancy and lit up her emotions. She felt like someone who had just resurrected from death.

‘Kevin, I think you are right. Life must continue. Our past experiences have just taught us great lessons. I wouldn’t mind to give you my heart, my love, my life. You are the great miracle that had just happened to me. You’ve brought me out of my confusion and nightmare – you have resurrected my dead emotions and romantic prowess. I had vowed never to fall again in love with any man. But you came and spoke to my wounded heart and bruised life. Yes, I believe you Kevin; yes I believe we can make it together’ Nancy declared sobbing.

Kevin noticed that Nancy was sobbing and that her eyes were gradually filled with tears. He stood and held her tight to himself.

‘Nancy, I love you and I promise you’ll never regret about this day.’ Kevin comforted and promised.

‘I love you Kevin’ Nancy uttered. Kevin and Nancy left the restaurant for home. One the way Kevin informed Nancy about his company’s board meeting trip to UK scheduled for the following day.
‘Honey, I’ll travel tomorrow to U.K for a board meeting and will be back in five days. Please I’m sorry that I did not inform you all this while’ he informed and apologized.

‘Okay, no problem, I’ll wait for you. It’s just that I’m going to miss you so much’ she said calmly.
‘Yeah, I know. I’m going to miss you too. But we’ll make it up as soon as I’m back’ Kevin comforted her.

Kevin traveled to UK for the board meeting. Upon arrival at his hotel he gave Nancy a call and she felt no much loneliness. Two days after Kevin had traveled, Nancy began to experience fever and weakness in her body. She went to a hospital for medical check up and was told by the doctor that she was pregnant of a month and two days.
‘My young lady the test conducted shows that you are pregnant of a month and two days. Congratulations’ the doctor said gladly.
‘Please doctor did you say I’m pregnant?’ she asked anxiously.
‘Yes, you heard me right. Are you not happy that you are pregnant and that you will soon become a happy mother?’ the doctor interrogated gently.

‘I’m doctor, but but … Nancy stammered.

Nancy stood up and left for home.
On the way she worried and thought greatly. ‘Oh my God, I’m pregnant for Damien. I must do something fast or else Kevin will know about it. The only solution to this is to abort the child. But I’m afraid; it might complicate my health or endanger my life. But I can’t afford to lose Kevin too for anything. Oh my God, please help me I’m confused’ Nancy worried greatly. Nancy could not abort the child. She worried all day and it made her look like someone sick. It was evident to all. Kevin returned from trip and noticed Nancy’s sudden change of appearance.

‘Honey, you’ve grown too tiny. I hope it is not because of my trip’ Kevin teased.
Nancy didn’t reciprocate. She was too quiet and it raised a greater concern to Kevin. ‘Honey you have been too calm since I came back. Is anything the matter? Please tell me?’ Kevin interrogated gently.

‘No honey, I’m all right? She replied calmly.

‘But you don’t look happy and besides you’ve lost some weight’ Kevin enquired.
“Honey, I’m afraid to lose you. I don’t want to lose you’ Nancy cried resting on his chest. She burst in tears. Her statements raised more concern.
‘Honey, why do you say you don’t want to lose me? You can’t lose me, you. I love you’ He reassured her.

‘Kevin, I don’t want to lose you. Please I don’t want to lose you’ she repeated and cried.

‘Please tell me what the issue is and I promise you will not lose me. I’ll help you’ He promised.

‘Honey, I’m, I’m, I’m pregnant’ Nancy opened up in tears.
‘How do you mean? I haven’t made love to you yet. How come you are pregnant? This is certainly not from me’. He declared sternly.

Nancy was on her kneels and in great tears. ‘Please get up and explain to me this pregnancy.’ He queried.

‘Kevin, two days after you traveled I felt a bit feverish. I went to the hospital and the doctor told me I was pregnant of a month and two days. It dawned on me that I was pregnant for Damien. Since that day till you came back from the trip I have worried myself to death not knowing what to do next. The thought of abortion came to my mind, but I didn’t want to do it. I was afraid’ she narrated.
‘Abortion! Please don’t do it. This child has come to stay. Have you let Damien know about it?’ he interrogated sympathetically.

‘No Kevin. I was confused and dying. I thought of what you and he might say. I was afraid the outcome would be disastrous. Though I may not have done the right thing, however out of confusion, I felt keeping it to myself was the best idea until you came and woke me up out of my insomnia’ Nancy lamented.

‘Alright, to me, getting rid of the child isn’t the best idea. I think we should give him a chance to life’. I wouldn’t mind to father him. I think we should plan our wedding now. That’s the only way you and the child won’t lose me’ Kevin exhorted.

‘No, Kevin, No, this is not right. Please you can’t assume this fatherly responsibility just like that. I think it’s time we parted ways. I can’t stand living with you and bearing in me a child that is not yours. I can’t stand this reproach, this shame’ Nancy regretted.

‘Nancy, I love you whether with the child or not. This is certainly a great mistake; however, there is room for correction and a second chance. By the way, let’s assume there was an accident that caused a disability to your physique would I have stopped to love you? Would we have parted ways? Listen to me; I may not be doing what will seem good to other people’s eyes, however, I love you. Nothing can quench love, not even many waters’. He exhorted.

‘Kevin, thank you for accepting me just as I’m. I’m grateful and I shall never forget this day’ Nancy appreciated.

‘Nancy, I have just learnt something new again. The scope and depth of love is yet fully assessed. Love is very deep and no man can fully decipher its mysteries. Nevertheless, I’ve made up my mind and I’ll marry you. We must go and see your parents for the wedding arrangements’ Kevin declared.

Kevin and Nancy got wedded within a month. The lived happily. Nancy gave birth to the child and had three other children for him.

The End!

BE COMPATIBLE BEFORE FALLING IN LOVE

Long-term relationships fail for many reasons, but one of the most common is incompatibility in important areas of your life. It’s all too easy to overlook major differences in the first bloom of love, but will the traits and beliefs that seem endearing in the first months of a new relationship still be acceptable in five, ten, or forty years? The sad thing is that a painful breakup could have been avoided, simply by having an honest discussion of important issues before the relationship got too deep. If you take a hard look at the ways you differ from your new flame, you can spare yourself a broken heart and a lot of time down the road. Here are five questions that you should ask yourself before your relationship gets too serious.

1. Are Our Politics Compatible?
Politics is an issue which is often ignored in the early stages of a relationship. Who wants to think about global warming when you could be planning a romantic getaway? However, people tend to be passionate about their political beliefs, and differing views can cause relationships to explode. Falling in love with people who share your political tendencies will make a smoother road to travel in the future.

2. Are Our Religious Views Compatible?
Opposing religious views might work out for two adults who respect one another, even if you do have difficulty reconciling your agnostic views with his dedication to spending Sunday mornings in church. However, they can become a strain in a long term relationship, especially if you plan to have children.

3. Are Our Patterns of Communication Compatible?
Some couples frequently flare up at each other, shouting and yelling over every little problem – only to be doting on each other five minutes later. Others would be badly hurt, preferring to discuss disagreements calmly and peaceably. Difficulties often arise when communication patterns within the relationship vary widely.

4. Do We Have Similar Visions of the Future?
When you first fall in love, all you can think about is the next time that you can see your new flame again. However, this is the best time to consider the future as well. If you’ve always dreamed of children and she doesn’t want them, or you envision spending your life in the country while he wants the glamour of city life, it will be difficult to combine your differing views into a comfortable life together.

5. Do We Have Similar Ideas About Love?
Everybody has different ideas about how people who are in love should act. Perhaps you show your affection through your actions instead of your words, or you want your independence while your lover wants to spend all your spare time together. The more compatible these opinions, the easier your life together will be.

With love, honest communication, and respect, any of these differences may be overcome. However, knowing the areas in which you and your new love are not a perfect fit will allow you to address these issues early on. If you are not able to come to an agreement, you will know that the relationship will not work before it is too late.

5 Simple Tips to Help You Fall Out of Crazy Love

Do you have any tips for falling out of crazy love?

I'm going to assume from your question that you are talking about a relationship which ended badly for you. The main theme for "falling out of crazy love" under such circumstances is the theme of healing.

You might want to consider the following:

1. Be aware that you have some grieving to do. Even if the relationship ended in anger, it is still a loss.
2. Part of the grieving process involves getting some clarity in two areas: a. an honest assessment of your role in the problems; b. acknowledging that which you did well in the relationship.
3. Be compassionate with yourself. Say some affirmations. Do an act of kindness for yourself. Nurture yourself a little.
4. Do some journaling. Write angry letters that you don't mail
5. Don't be in a big hurry to get into another relationship. Take some time to heal.

There are times when you still love a person but you are not "in crazy love" with them. Perhaps you have been drained by the relationship and are "out of love" for just that reason.

Love Is a Way of Being

Love isn't something that someone causes us to feel, but a state of being that we experience whenever we are fully present in the moment to whatever or whomever is showing up. Love is our natural state, and we experience our natural state whenever the chattering mind is quiet or simply ignored. This state of being is one of peace, acceptance, and crazy love. The only thing that can interfere with experiencing the love of our true nature is absorption in our thoughts and any feelings generated by those thoughts. When we are lost in our mental and emotional world, we miss out on reality, on the real experience of this moment. In our mental world, thoughts about life substitute for real life. When we drop out of these thoughts about ourselves and how our life is going, life can be experienced more purely, and when it is, love naturally flows to whatever or whomever we are experiencing.

Love is a way of being with others. When we are attentive, curious, and interested in others, love naturally flows to them from inside us. This outward flow of love is the experience of love. This flow of love is not dependent on who or what is in front of us, on what someone is doing, or on whether someone is being loving toward us, but on whether we are fully engaged with and accepting of that person and whatever is happening in the moment. Love is a state of being that is activated by giving attention to something or someone.

Many of us experience an absence or lack of love because we are giving our attention to thoughts about life instead of real life. When we give attention to our thoughts about life, we are loving our mental world, and that mental world isn't real, and it is very often a negative world, where nothing and no one is ever good enough. When we are invested in this mental world, our conditioned beliefs, judgments, fears, desires, and expectations seem really important, and these are what cause problems in our relationships. We think we need people to be a certain way for us to love them and be happy with them, but that just isn't true. It just seems true because we tend to choose to love (accept and give attention to) those who look and do things the way we want.

But crazy love doesn't have to be limited in this way. We can choose to love even when others aren't meeting our desires or fitting our fantasies and expectations. Our conditioned ideas and desires are not more important than love, unless we allow them to be, which is a recipe for difficulty in relationship. When we can move beyond our desires, needs, expectations, fantasies, and judgments, then love is possible with anyone at any time. That doesn't mean you would choose to be in a relationship with just anyone, but it is possible to experience love in relating to anyone, since love comes from being interested in, attentive to, and accepting of someone, which is possible when we are not judging them or finding reasons to close our hearts to them and withdraw our interest and attention.
Love is something we have the power to experience because we have the power to give love. When we give love, we experience it; when we withhold it, we don't. The more we can overcome the judgments and other conditioning that cause us to withhold our love (i.e., our acceptance and attention) from others, the more we will experience love. It is as simple as that, but not necessarily easy to put into practice. We tend to really believe our judgments and other ideas that cause us to close our hearts to others, but we don't have to. We can say no to the judgments and other conditioning that interfere with love. When we do so, our experience of life is transformed. Love is readily available whenever we turn away from our judgments and negative conditioning and allow ourselves to be fully engaged with and interested in the real person in front of us.

Did He Really Say "I love you"?

Have you ever been in a relationship with a guy that progressed to the “I love you” stage? That’s the stage of a relationship when things are going well; you are enjoying each other’s company, and you believe the other person feels the same way.

It’s the point where your relationship can become more than just a friendship – it can become a vessel of long-lasting commitments, tender moments, and soulful intimacy. And you can get so excited about the possibilities of a relationship that you hear things that have yet to be said.

Now, I am of the opinion that 50% of relationships could progress to a marriage. All it takes is a willingness to nurture trust and care in a relationship that has marital promise.

But, the relationship gets off course because the man, woman or both make choices that alter the direction of that naturally progressing relationship. One is the assumption that the other has expressed love for you, when indeed they haven’t.

When you believe that someone has said “I love you” when they really haven’t, you begin to expect the other to be there for you way before they’ve decided they want to be there for you. You get hurt, the other person is confused, and the relationship fizzles away into nothingness instead of progressing forward to marriage. It’s sad, because if more people knew what love was, they wouldn’t jump the gun before its time.

For example, here are some phrases that sound like I Love You but really aren’t.

* I love that about you (I admire that aspect of you).
* I think I’m falling for you (I may love you, but I am not sure).
* I could love you forever (There’s a possibility I could love you, but I haven’t made up my mind yet).
* I love being with you (I love the way spending time with you makes me feel).

I mean, it’s hard to ignore what someone says, and some of these phrases do sound like a declaration of love. But they’re not. Saying I love you is sharing with a person that you care for them, want to aid them in life, and want to be responsible for their well-being. It’s a major step, and one that shouldn’t be ignored. If a person loves you, they can become a reliable companion for you.

The difference between I love you and I’m in love with you.

Many times, you’ll hear someone say to another, I love you but I am not in love with you. This usually means “I am motivated to be there for you, but I am not romantically attracted you”. But did you know that people can be in love with you, but not love you?

Being in love with someone is when you admire their body, character, motivations, personality, habits, or abilities. It’s focused on how that person makes you feel when they are around you and how much better the world is when you get to share their company.

But loving someone requires more than that.

Loving someone requires two things. First, you have to believe there is some way you can help that person. You have to see a way you can show care, and the more opportunities you find, the more you believe you can love them. Second, you have to make a decision to be there for them. Even if you see there’s a way you can nurture, protective, encourage, suffer with, or aid a person, you still have to chose to do all those things, regardless of how that decision will affect your own life. Loving someone is less about what the person does you for, and more about what you can do for them.

So, sometimes, when you “think” you hear a person say they love you, they’re really saying they’re in love with you. They like you, they admire you, or they are aroused by you. The focus is on what you do for them, not what they can do for you. It’s beautiful, but it’s not enough to begin sharing crazy love with that person. You have to wait for the “I love you” both in what they say, and what they do.

Here’s how love acts:

Love hurts when you are injured, and rejoices in your gladness.

Love protects you from the world’s harsh realities and comforts you in the deepest places of your soul.

Love bends.

Love forgives you when you make a mistake, over and over again.

Love needs you to have the fullest life possible, and makes sure it helps you experience that life, one day at a time.

Love gives.

Love sees you at your best when you are at your worst.

Love reminds you of your future more than focusing on your past.

Love hopes.

Love is love and nothing else.

When a man and woman say “I love you” it’s because they want the other person to know they have made the decision to be there for them. And they want to hear if the other person feels the same way about them. It’s a turning point of any relationship, because now you can judge the other person’s intentions based on their actions.

Some people will still say I love you, and not mean it. But many people won’t even go there if they don’t mean it, because now they are really on the line. A friendship can go on for months and months, but once you say I love you, it’s either on or off, yes or no, is you is or is you ain’t!

So please, only say “I love you” when you mean it, and give the benefit of the doubt when someone else says it. If they really love you, you’ll know it because they will begin to treat you with love, if they haven’t already. And until they do say so, enjoy the time you share with your friends, and wait on love to blossom in its own time. If love is there for you, you will have it. And if it’s not, love may be waiting for you in the heart of someone else close by.