Story about Crazy Love

It was 6.pm in the evening. Almost every worker was getting set to leave the office after a hectic day. Noise of chatting workers was heard throughout the company’s complex. Everyone was happy that the working day had come and gone. As the evening was gradually giving way for eerie darkness, most workers had left, and reduced was the silence.

At the extreme of the office of Accounts was a very beautiful, slim, elegantly dressed lady with long dark hairs neatly rolled as a bond on the gap of her head. She had just finished with her work and was leaving for home too. She strode to the outside car park where her brand new and latest model of Toyota Camry was parked. As she inserted the key into the door key lock, an attractive and gorgeously dressed young man walked to her.

‘Hi pretty’ the gentleman greeted with a smooth smile.
‘Hi’ Nancy reciprocated reluctantly trying to remember if she has ever met the young man before.
‘I know you are trying to remember if you have ever met me before’, Am I right?’ the gentleman teased.

‘May be you are right, but please who are you and why did you decide to talk to me?’ Nancy enquired gently. Nancy who although looked a bit embarrassed by the stranger, however, could not look down on his charming face and romantic approach. What is this guy up to? She thought.

The more the stranger smiled at her the more she felt like something within her was trying to draw her to him. She tried as much as to ignore his smooth smile, but the stranger kept smiling as if he could read what was in her mind and knew how she felt.

‘I’m Kevin’ he introduced himself. Nancy felt like she should not tell him her name for sake of fear, but she couldn’t just resist any thing about him.
‘Hum… I’m Nancy’ she said shyly.

‘It’s my pleasure meeting you, Nancy’

‘It’s my pleasure too’
‘I understand how you feel. Perhaps I got you at a wrong time’ Kevin apologized.

‘Oh no! I’m okay’ she countered.

‘By the way how did you notice me and came to this place? She interrogated gently.

‘Love and destiny’ he answered smiling.

‘What do you mean? Nancy enquired.

‘I’ve been a secret admirer for over four days’. He admitted.

‘Don’t tell me you are teasing me’ Nancy said.
‘Nancy I’m not teasing you. I’m serious and besides you are beautiful and I love you’ Kevin flattered.
‘Thank you for the compliments, but I think you are taking the discussion too far. We have just met and we have not known each other well and you are talking of a relationship already?’ Nancy spoke diplomatically.
I’d just come out of a relationship having shattered emotions and my life torn into pieces, but I just can’t resist Kevin. He’s handsome, oratical, charming and besides there is something about him that sends fire within my being she thought. Nancy felt like flinging herself into his arms and at the same time thought of not being seen as cheap.

However, she was on fire.
‘Nancy, I don’t truly need that long protocol. I know what I want. There is something special about you that I like. And I strongly believe you are the woman of my life’ Kevin said seriously.

‘I hope you are not flattering me’

‘No, Nancy, I ‘m in love with you. Beautiful and very intelligent girls like you deserve love and care, and not games. Please let me show you love and how caring I’m’ Kevin entreated. Nancy’s heart began to beat faster. She felt like she had just won a jackpot worth millions of dollars.

‘Well in as much as I would want us to have a relationship, nevertheless, I need some time to think over it’

‘No problem. You can give yourself time as much as you want to think’ Kevin replied. ‘Okay! Please I got to go home now. Where do you live so that I could give you a ride’ she pleaded with him.

‘Thanks Nancy, I’ve come with my car. That’s it parked over the other side of the road’ He explained. Kevin gave Nancy his card and received hers too. Nancy got into her car bade him farewell and drove home.

Kevin departed for his own car too. Driving home, Nancy was betwixt fear and joy ‘Am I doing the right thing? I’ve just come out of a relationship and here am I dying already for a man I know nothing about. But I’m beginning to like … to love him. He’s just irresistible. I know Damien cheated on me after we had been in love for two years. Ah! Some men could be heartless. Oh my God, I just don’t know how to turn Kevin down. May be I should give him a chance. Who knows what the future holds for anybody. He might turn being the prince charming I’ve always dreamt of, she told herself. As soon as Nancy got home she called Kevin to let him know that she has consented and wouldn’t mind to develop a relationship with him. Kevin invited her to dine with him at one luxurious restaurant the following evening. Nancy honored his invitation and they enjoyed themselves.

‘Nancy, how did you see this place? Do you like it?’ Kevin asked.

‘Yeah, it’s great here!’ She replied.
‘Nancy, I’m glad you came and most importantly you are giving me a chance to show you my love.’ He appreciated.

‘Please don’t tell me that you don’t have any girl in your life,’
She enquired.

‘I had one a year ago. I loved her and I was very committed to her in a relationship that lasted over a year. We had plans to marry and we were already working on it when she suddenly left me for a guy she said was her first love in college years ago. That’s how our relationship was broken’ Kevin narrated.
‘How did you carry on with your life? Didn’t you have another girl in your life since then? Nancy enquired curiously.

‘No, I felt cheated and I promised myself never to get involved into any serious relationship until I met you yesterday’ Kevin explained.
‘Since you’ve met me now what makes you think you will not treat me casually.’ She queried.

‘I have just learnt that love has two facets. We have the good side and the crazy side. Nancy, please believe me, I’m in for a genuine love. I want to marry you’ Kevin implored.

Even though Nancy was secretly pleased with the idea of marriage, however, she had some reservations because she thought Kevin was too fast about everything and that she needed more time to study him and know if they were compatible.

‘Kevin, don’t you think you are too fast about this? However, I have just come out of a relationship and I’m afraid to develop one, not even soon’ Nancy explained in a tone that indicated she was worried.

‘Please Nancy tell me your story’ Kevin begged.

‘Oh Kevin, it is such a bad experience I never like to remember. Please could we discuss something else’ she implored.

Kevin grabbed her two hands to comfort and reassure her of his love.

‘Nancy, I truly sympathize with you. However, you must carry on. Life must continue. Please look into my eyes. We both have had similar experiences. We were truly out for love and in love, unfortunately with the wrong persons. Now those fates have brought us together I think we could make it up with each other for good. Nancy, believe me we can make it together. Please let’s give ourselves the chance’ Kevin persuaded.

Kevin’s discourse reassured Nancy and lit up her emotions. She felt like someone who had just resurrected from death.

‘Kevin, I think you are right. Life must continue. Our past experiences have just taught us great lessons. I wouldn’t mind to give you my heart, my love, my life. You are the great miracle that had just happened to me. You’ve brought me out of my confusion and nightmare – you have resurrected my dead emotions and romantic prowess. I had vowed never to fall again in love with any man. But you came and spoke to my wounded heart and bruised life. Yes, I believe you Kevin; yes I believe we can make it together’ Nancy declared sobbing.

Kevin noticed that Nancy was sobbing and that her eyes were gradually filled with tears. He stood and held her tight to himself.

‘Nancy, I love you and I promise you’ll never regret about this day.’ Kevin comforted and promised.

‘I love you Kevin’ Nancy uttered. Kevin and Nancy left the restaurant for home. One the way Kevin informed Nancy about his company’s board meeting trip to UK scheduled for the following day.
‘Honey, I’ll travel tomorrow to U.K for a board meeting and will be back in five days. Please I’m sorry that I did not inform you all this while’ he informed and apologized.

‘Okay, no problem, I’ll wait for you. It’s just that I’m going to miss you so much’ she said calmly.
‘Yeah, I know. I’m going to miss you too. But we’ll make it up as soon as I’m back’ Kevin comforted her.

Kevin traveled to UK for the board meeting. Upon arrival at his hotel he gave Nancy a call and she felt no much loneliness. Two days after Kevin had traveled, Nancy began to experience fever and weakness in her body. She went to a hospital for medical check up and was told by the doctor that she was pregnant of a month and two days.
‘My young lady the test conducted shows that you are pregnant of a month and two days. Congratulations’ the doctor said gladly.
‘Please doctor did you say I’m pregnant?’ she asked anxiously.
‘Yes, you heard me right. Are you not happy that you are pregnant and that you will soon become a happy mother?’ the doctor interrogated gently.

‘I’m doctor, but but … Nancy stammered.

Nancy stood up and left for home.
On the way she worried and thought greatly. ‘Oh my God, I’m pregnant for Damien. I must do something fast or else Kevin will know about it. The only solution to this is to abort the child. But I’m afraid; it might complicate my health or endanger my life. But I can’t afford to lose Kevin too for anything. Oh my God, please help me I’m confused’ Nancy worried greatly. Nancy could not abort the child. She worried all day and it made her look like someone sick. It was evident to all. Kevin returned from trip and noticed Nancy’s sudden change of appearance.

‘Honey, you’ve grown too tiny. I hope it is not because of my trip’ Kevin teased.
Nancy didn’t reciprocate. She was too quiet and it raised a greater concern to Kevin. ‘Honey you have been too calm since I came back. Is anything the matter? Please tell me?’ Kevin interrogated gently.

‘No honey, I’m all right? She replied calmly.

‘But you don’t look happy and besides you’ve lost some weight’ Kevin enquired.
“Honey, I’m afraid to lose you. I don’t want to lose you’ Nancy cried resting on his chest. She burst in tears. Her statements raised more concern.
‘Honey, why do you say you don’t want to lose me? You can’t lose me, you. I love you’ He reassured her.

‘Kevin, I don’t want to lose you. Please I don’t want to lose you’ she repeated and cried.

‘Please tell me what the issue is and I promise you will not lose me. I’ll help you’ He promised.

‘Honey, I’m, I’m, I’m pregnant’ Nancy opened up in tears.
‘How do you mean? I haven’t made love to you yet. How come you are pregnant? This is certainly not from me’. He declared sternly.

Nancy was on her kneels and in great tears. ‘Please get up and explain to me this pregnancy.’ He queried.

‘Kevin, two days after you traveled I felt a bit feverish. I went to the hospital and the doctor told me I was pregnant of a month and two days. It dawned on me that I was pregnant for Damien. Since that day till you came back from the trip I have worried myself to death not knowing what to do next. The thought of abortion came to my mind, but I didn’t want to do it. I was afraid’ she narrated.
‘Abortion! Please don’t do it. This child has come to stay. Have you let Damien know about it?’ he interrogated sympathetically.

‘No Kevin. I was confused and dying. I thought of what you and he might say. I was afraid the outcome would be disastrous. Though I may not have done the right thing, however out of confusion, I felt keeping it to myself was the best idea until you came and woke me up out of my insomnia’ Nancy lamented.

‘Alright, to me, getting rid of the child isn’t the best idea. I think we should give him a chance to life’. I wouldn’t mind to father him. I think we should plan our wedding now. That’s the only way you and the child won’t lose me’ Kevin exhorted.

‘No, Kevin, No, this is not right. Please you can’t assume this fatherly responsibility just like that. I think it’s time we parted ways. I can’t stand living with you and bearing in me a child that is not yours. I can’t stand this reproach, this shame’ Nancy regretted.

‘Nancy, I love you whether with the child or not. This is certainly a great mistake; however, there is room for correction and a second chance. By the way, let’s assume there was an accident that caused a disability to your physique would I have stopped to love you? Would we have parted ways? Listen to me; I may not be doing what will seem good to other people’s eyes, however, I love you. Nothing can quench love, not even many waters’. He exhorted.

‘Kevin, thank you for accepting me just as I’m. I’m grateful and I shall never forget this day’ Nancy appreciated.

‘Nancy, I have just learnt something new again. The scope and depth of love is yet fully assessed. Love is very deep and no man can fully decipher its mysteries. Nevertheless, I’ve made up my mind and I’ll marry you. We must go and see your parents for the wedding arrangements’ Kevin declared.

Kevin and Nancy got wedded within a month. The lived happily. Nancy gave birth to the child and had three other children for him.

The End!

Why Use A Love Spell? You Do Not Need Crazy Love

Love is a feeling which you have little or no control over. It has made many people commit suicide, sell plots of land and remain bankrupt. It makes most people to behave in an abnormal manner. To the people around them they act stupid but to themselves they are only responding to some queer forces. Extreme crazy love is usually associated with love spells. A love spell is dangerous because it is like your life stands still and all that is important is the other person. It becomes endless love. This is usually used by people who their love is un reciprocated. It is a bad feeling to love somebody who does not love you back. It can even cause a bad heart disease. Love spells are also used in revenge missions. I have heard of married women who have used love spells on their promiscuous drunkard husbands in a trial to tame them.

People who are subjected to love spells become real slaves of the other partners. In most cases, no amount of verbal abuse or even physical abuse that is enough to make the love disappear. The endless love cannot be easily reverted and it mostly calls for intervention from friends and relatives. It is the extreme form of crazy love. I once read a story about a girl who was subjected to a love spell when she was sixteen years old. The amount of audacity and courage she explained left my mouth agape. She used to escape from school at the middle of the night, jump over electric fences amidst much darkness and run over the bushes only to have a glance at a teenage boy.

Love spells blind your eye in such a way that you are not responsive to any amount of mistreatment. She used to be beaten over a small quarrel and she even miscarried. Her mother was very touched that she had to save her from the hands of death. She got her a school far away from the bustard and her life continued. What disappointed me was her confession that she still had love feeling towards the guy but she restrains herself. This means that love which is influenced by a spell is endless love. It is very unfair to see someone struggling to free herself from crazy love and yet she can't.

Crazy love is very disturbing especially if you do not need it. Love spells are known to mess people's lives. There should be a social court where such offenders are judged and persecuted. Love should come from within without any external forces. That is the real true love which you should celebrate. It does not feel good to be loved by someone because you had to use a love spell on her. You live feeling guilty since endless love will haunt her for a life time. It is not possible to revert the already done damage. Be patient with life and with the advent of dating sites you will find love so effortlessly.

How to Show a Man You Love Him? 7 Really Good Ways You Can Use to Show Your Affection

Sometimes it can be the easiest thing in the world to show a man that you love him and yet the most difficult especially if you don't have a clue how to go about it! Here are some simple yet very effective tips that can make your man sure that you adore him from the bottom of your heart.

Be faithful to your promises and vows
Don't be the type of woman who forgets all about the vows and promises she made to her man after she manages to hook him! He will feel used and betrayed if he finds out that you are a woman who cannot keep her word. If you make sure that you have integrity and loyalty towards him - he will not doubt your love for him.

Accept his faults and shortcomings
If you love him then you will accept him just the way he is. You will understand and accept his flaws and shortcomings. He will know that you really care when he finds that you are forgiving and loving towards him instead of being critical and judgmental in every way.

Be ready to make changes
One of the best ways to show him that you love him is to be ready to make the necessary changes that will help the relationship. If you realize that your faults and bad attitudes are responsible for jeopardizing the relationship and you are willing to do whatever is needed to save it, then it will prove to him that you love him and don't want to lose him.

Don't have too many expectations
Don't have too many strict laws, standards and expectations. The poor guy will not be able to come up to them and always feel intimidated and insecure. He will begin to resent the fact that he is "below par" if he does not satisfy you in any way. Instead be accommodating and compatible.

Be selfless and giving right through
The secret of a successful relationship is sharing. If you are willing to be utterly selfless and giving without expecting anything in return, it will make him confident of your love. In fact, your attitude will reflect your personality and character and prompt him to be as loving and sincere as you are.

Be completely faithful and loyal to him
Ask any man and he will tell you that fidelity is one of the biggest priorities of a relationship. No man can be happy with a woman who cheats on her partner. If you are faithful and prove it time and time again, he will know that you are sincerely in love with him.

Give him time
A man is only truly happy when he gets attention and loving from the woman he loves. If he is neglected or ignored in any way, he will start to look for attention somewhere else! If you are careful to make him feel wanted, appreciated and loved - you can be sure that he will recognize your feelings of love for him.

How to Love Life Again

When change happens, we do not always know how to deal with it. That is especially true with death. Losing someone or something we love, e.g. a spouse, a child, a friend, a pet, or perhaps even your job can be very difficult. Life changes in ways we may never have contemplated. When this happens, and it will happen to everybody sometime in their lives, how do we deal with all the emotions? How do we move on with our own lives? How do we begin to love life again?

Below are five steps to begin that process.

STEP 1: You Can Do It
The first step is to acknowledge the possibility that you can make it through whatever difficulties you face. While grief consists of five distinct stages, very few people will go through those stages one after the other. You might experience them one by one or several at the same time. People process grief in their own time and in their own way. What does this mean for you? Well, it means that you may acknowledge you can make it through moment by moment over and over again.

STEP 2: Feel Your Emotions
Really feel them, then reach for the emotion that is just one step lighter than what you are feeling now, e.g. one step lighter than fear, grief, depression, despair, and powerlessness are insecurity, guilt, and unworthiness. Now that may not seem any better and yet step by step you will begin to feel a little bit better. This does not occur overnight, but it does happen.

STEP 3: Find the Music
Make room in your life to include music that feeds your soul. Include music that lets you express your anger, your depression, your giddiness, or whatever emotion you are feeling at the moment. Especially good is laughter. You know the kind: the cheek hurting, belly aching bellow of laughter, the kind that brings tears to your eyes. When it is over, it is a relief just to stop laughing! Ahhh....

STEP 4: Go for the Support
Reach out to someone who will support you. This may not be who you expect. You just might find a very special friend by venturing out to others. Go out for lunch or dinner. Spend hours on the phone talking about all kinds of things. Find someone who will let you talk as much as you need, someone who will really listen. Another form of support to consider is Hospice. Look them up in your local phone book. They have an incredible amount of knowledge and support available.

STEP 5: Dare to dream.
Imagine your world the way you would like it to be in the future and write it down. Then take one action every day towards that dream. On some days the action you take may be as simple as reading your dreams over and over again. And, remember, it is okay if your dreams keep changing. If the step you take today does not feel right, well, then change directions and take just one more step. What is most important is that you do take one action step toward the future that you choose.

These five steps are really very simple, but I will guarantee you that they are not always easy. I will also guarantee that you are worth every beautiful step you take towards your dream.

Being Crazy in Love

Unknowingly, we often put an imaginary wall in between our perfect partner and ourselves, thinking that this is the only way that we can get protected from pain. While inside this makeshift bubble, we ask ourselves, "What does it really take to be in love?" After reading all Shakespearean sonnets and memorizing all the love songs in the radio, the same grueling question still reverberates in our minds. Yet in truth, the answer is simple and it only relies on our choices.

Let loose. Unfetter your inhibitions and welcome all the feelings that love has to offer. Sometimes, we are constricting ourselves with that perfect concept of finding the one and possibly lifting ourselves up from single life. We have our personal ideal concepts of the perfect marriage, the best Valentines date, the preeminent soul mate and the ultimate boyfriend.

We engross ourselves with too much poetry and disguise that we forget how "luv" used to be dangerous and fun. Being crazy in love makes all the difference in the world of passion and romance. Yes, fairytales do present visions of perfection in princes and dukes, but in reality, you can find more ardor and desire in the boy next door or the tattooed guy on the motorcycle. Erase all your reticence and fear and let go of something that puts you away from possible relationships. Take a risk and be free of prospects and anticipation. Once you do all these, you'd be surprised as to how love can be so endearing and enlightening so long as you receive it with open arms.

Keeping Love Healthy with Money Problems

Money may not everything, but it also isn’t just anything. It helps us not only to survive, but also allows us to enjoy other luxuries and do many enjoyable things with the ones we love. Money also gives us the strength and confidence to chase after our dreams and assists us in making them come true.

When money is short such as in the credit crunch and debt is involved however, it can affect your romantic relationship, no matter how much you and your partner may love each other. This is because when you go from a life of comfort to a life of struggle and unwanted change, it creates stress for everyone involved and patience can be short. When patience is short, it causes people to be easily annoyed with each other and they tend to snap at each other quickly due to all the worries on their mind.

Can money problems and a credit crunch ruin a good romantic connection? It can- but it doesn’t have to! With all the financial trouble out there today, it is very likely you will find yourself in some money trouble sooner or later. Naturally, both you and your partner are going to feel concerned and stressed out about it, and that’s okay. The only important effort you both need to make is to do whatever it takes to avoid turning on each other and playing blame games, and instead work together love creditin taking care of your financial situation. As unpleasant as it may be, you both will have to make certain changes in order to keep your heads above water until your situation improves. This includes budgeting on things you never had to before and finding less expensive ways to enjoy life.

Work together in finding romantic things to do together that cost less. It is essential that you keep your romance alive and healthy during rough times and not allow money obstacles to tear you and your love apart. Tackle your money problems together, but do not neglect your love life. Make dates to do something nice together that will not out a strain on any of your wallets. For example, you can reserve a certain night for “movie night”, rent some movies and cuddle on the couch together with some sweet snacks. You could also cook up a romantic dinner at home, or go out for dinner and come home for dessert. There are many things you can do- the point is to be attentive to your relationship and not get drowned in your money worries. There is time to work on finances and time to enjoy your relationship. Your passion for each other should not go on hold and there is no need to turn against each other, because this is something you both can tackle and conquer together- as a loving couple.

Things to Remember:

How you felt about each other when you first fell in love and focus on why you love each other in the first place

* Remember how supportive you both were of each other when things were going well. It is time to now supportive of each other through struggling times too.
* Remember that it takes two to keeps things good or to make them go sour. Team work is the key!
* Always be open to listen to one another, even if you do not always agree. Ignoring things, blaming each other or closing up to what the other has to say will not make your money problems go away and could actually make it worse in more ways than one.
* Tackle this together and come up with a plan you both like to help you both get back on track.

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How One Feels Crazy In Love?

Passionate love creates many feelings. In passionate love, lovers are even ready to give away their life. Passionate love neither recognizes logic nor it follows any norms. You must have read stories that told how a poor boy fell in love with a princess and ultimately won her over. Love that reaches heights of passion is beyond any advice.

No one can communicate with such lovers because their mind is closed to any talk of separation.

What kind of love is that? How a sensible person begins behaving strangely. Can such love be compared with addictions? A person before any addiction is sensible, logical and, follows norms and acts normal. After getting addicted a drug, people rob; commit theft and what ever else they need to do to get the drug. Without the drug they cannot live. The withdrawal symptoms are equally uncontrollable and have to be managed under medical supervision.

To try and persuade a drug addict to leave the drug is a difficult task that has to be accomplished over period of time. It is not as simple as asking - please stop using this drug, and he/she will comply. It requires real effort, persuasion and therapy to achieve that. Is love that has reached passionate heights comparable?

It looks as if the effects are same, the longing is same and the separation is equally painful. Being crazy in love means total dependence on the beloved. No moment goes without his/her thought and every attempt will be made to win him/her over. If for any reason, the beloved cannot be won, the consequences can be equally bad unless helped with therapy.

Why Use a Love Spell? You Do not Need Crazy Love

Love is a feeling which you have little or no control over. It has made many people commit suicide, sell plots of land and remain bankrupt. It makes most people to behave in an abnormal manner. To the people around them they act stupid but to themselves they are only responding to some queer forces. Extreme crazy love is usually associated with love spells. A love spell is dangerous because it is like your life stands still and all that is important is the other person. It becomes endless love. This is usually used by people who their love is un reciprocated. It is a bad feeling to love somebody who does not love you back. It can even cause a bad heart disease. Love spells are also used in revenge missions. I have heard of married women who have used love spells on their promiscuous drunkard husbands in a trial to tame them.

People who are subjected to love spells become real slaves of the other partners. In most cases, no amount of verbal abuse or even physical abuse that is enough to make the love disappear. The endless love cannot be easily reverted and it mostly calls for intervention from friends and relatives. It is the extreme form of crazy love. I once read a story about a girl who was subjected to a love spell when she was sixteen years old. The amount of audacity and courage she explained left my mouth agape. She used to escape from school at the middle of the night, jump over electric fences amidst much darkness and run over the bushes only to have a glance at a teenage boy.

Love spells blind your eye in such a way that you are not responsive to any amount of mistreatment. She used to be beaten over a small quarrel and she even miscarried. Her mother was very touched that she had to save her from the hands of death. She got her a school far away from the bustard and her life continued. What disappointed me was her confession that she still had love feeling towards the guy but she restrains herself. This means that love which is influenced by a spell is endless love. It is very unfair to see someone struggling to free herself from crazy love and yet she can't.

Crazy love is very disturbing especially if you do not need it. Love spells are known to mess people's lives. There should be a social court where such offenders are judged and persecuted. Love should come from within without any external forces. That is the real true love which you should celebrate. It does not feel good to be loved by someone because you had to use a love spell on her. You live feeling guilty since endless love will haunt her for a life time. It is not possible to revert the already done damage. Be patient with life and with the advent of dating sites you will find love so effortlessly.

Give Love to Other People

I personally feel much more content and happy with myself when I am sharing love with others. There is not enough love giving in our world I am noticing more and more everyday. Why is this happening?

I have seen many articles written on love and most of them either revolve around religion or sexual relationships. Today I want to talk about love that everyone is capable of giving and receiving.

Sometimes I personally feel those without any religious background give love to other people more freely, mainly because they accept others for who they are as a person. To only accept others on what their belief systems you are actually shutting yourself off from some valuable life skills, these are the ones that help you connect with others.

Life is way to short to being sitting around hating and judging. Don't let things that have happened in the past stop you from having a loving future. If we want to have less dysfunction in our world we have to stop the cycle of hate and give love to other people.

Shame on the many religious people who can't help but to judge others. Judgment is a sign of you own in adequate feelings and hate well this also goes back to how you feel about yourself.

Now I'm not saying that life will ever be perfect. It can't be or there would be nothing for us to learn we would just be existing. But we can make choices to love ourselves warts and all and give love to other people.

Of course there will be times when we will all struggle to maintain a loving life, especially when we lose a loved one or are let down by others. Do you think hard times in your life is a good reason to not give love to other people?

I certainly don't think so, it can actually give your more strength to get through your hard times. To give love to other people can be done in so many ways. You don't have to make it this huge thing that you can only share with those close to you.

If you maintain a loving attitude and share your smiles and well wishes with others you are giving love to other people. If you stop to see if someone is alright when you are out and about this is being loving. Which means you can give love to other people.

Why are we so afraid of sharing this wonderful emotion with others? Is there really anything to lose from be loving?

Remember we learn through every experience so even the times you did give love to other people and it was not received positively, there was something to learn. Do you think it was to not love again?

No way we are made to be loving creatures, no matter who we are, what we do or where we live. I know this is an area in everyone's life that always needs adjustments. Imagine the change in this world if more people were concerned with what they were giving and not what they want for themselves next.

So helpfully you get the importance of why we should give love to other people. All people have so much good in them and imagine what feeling loved can bring out for those not receiving enough.

I hope you enjoyed this, keep smiling and never stop giving love to others.

Love and Freedom

One of the defining themes of my adult life has been this something that I refer to as Love. When the universe forced me into personal crisis a few years ago, it slowly became apparent that a key issue was love. Ever since then, my life has become, in one form or another, a meditation on love:

What is love?
How do I love myself?
Why does my heart feel broken?
Will I ever feel loved?
How do I love and be loved?
Does love exist?
Is it just an idea, or is it something real?

So far, I have learned much through this meditation; I have learned much on this journey. This article is designed to help you explore the contours of love in your life, so that you can enjoy the gift that is everyone’s birthright, the gift that the universe wants to give you.

In my experience, learning to love yourself is an essential step on this path of love. It is the first step because if you hate yourself, you can’t go anywhere. But how do we love ourselves? When I was first told to love myself, I had no idea what that meant, nor how to go about it. Love myself? You might as well have been speaking a foreign language. Loving yourself does not mean that you indulge every desire, whim, or impulse. Nor does it mean that you become infatuated with yourself, per se.

Loving yourself means that you take good care of yourself. It means you get rid of all those false voices that say you are defective, incompetent, unattractive, unlovable—whatever it may be. You begin to see more clearly negative voices of conditioning, and you discover that they are nothing other than conditioning. You slowly learn to break free from them, affirming your inherent self-worth, not because you have done anything or are any particularly way. You are inherently loveable simply because you exist. It is your birthright; it is the gift of being a human being. You accept yourself as you are, and allow yourself to grow and change in the direction of greater peace and harmony.

Self-hatred creates destruction and discontent. As you learn to love yourself, you break free from these negative tendencies and learn to treat yourself with the dignity and respect that is due to every human being.

As you learn to love yourself, as your own heart heals, the natural impulse is for love to flow outward. Your relationships begin to change. You begin to share love with other people. You begin to discover that love does most certainly exist. Yet this love is not a commodity. It is not something that can be earned through merit. Love just shows up. It shows up sometimes on this path of life. You might experience it with your best friend or your lover, maybe a child, or even a parent. As you explore it, you will discover that the love is there first. The love just shows up, and then you find out why it is there.

If you have ever had a particularly close love relationship, maybe with a dear friend, you will see how this is the case. Chances are you felt an attraction, a pull, a love toward that particular person. As you get to know them more and more, you discover that the love is there for a reason. Maybe it is there to teach you something, to help you grow, to help you change. Now the fact is that love is always there, has always been there and will always be there. It is simply easier to experience in relation to other people with whom you have a heart connection.

The biggest challenge with love for most people is the desire to cling, the desire to keep this something that we call love. Yet continual change is the nature of everything. So you must learn to relax on this path of love. You must learn to relax and allow love to come and go, to ebb and flow as it may. In this way, love can lead you to greater and greater freedom. You enjoy being with your friends, your family, your lover, but you also know how to be alone. When you are together, there is love. When you are alone, there is also love. You let everyone be free to do as they may. You are free to be as you are; to do as you do. They are free to be as they are; to do as they do. When you come together, it is a beautiful sharing. When you are apart, it is also lovely. You learn to float with the tide of love, coming and going, enjoying and relaxing.

You slowly learn to love the love. You learn to follow the love. If love leads you into yourself for a while, go there. If love leads you to particular people for some time, go there. If it then leads you elsewhere, just follow the love. For ultimately, you are love itself, only most of us do not know it. As you learn to follow love, you discover that it always guides you, teaches you, and informs you.

In speaking of love in relationships, one of my beloved spiritual teachers, Sri Nisargaddatta Maharaj said the following:

“You are neither the husband nor the wife. You are the love between the two.”

Allow your life to be a journey, an exploration. Inquire into this something called love; this force that permeates everything. Explore it within yourself; explore it outside of yourself. Follow it where it leads you, and you are guaranteed to learn something that you don’t already know. You are guaranteed to learn something about life, about love, about yourself, and about everyone else.

May love fill your heart always.

7 Tips for Increasing Romance in Relationships

This “love psychology” is all about reconnecting with your partner and improving your love life. Here are seven practical ways to say “I love you” – you'll soon be enjoying more romance in your relationship!

7 Easy Ways to Strengthen the Bonds in Your Love Relationship

1. Make a gourmet meal together. Whether you both love cooking or never set foot in the kitchen, spend a few hours picking a mouth-watering recipe, shopping for ingredients, and slicing and dicing, shaking and baking, tasting and tantalizing. Have a glass of wine, put on some Diana Krall, and enjoy a long evening of flavors and textures.

2. Indulge your partner. She loves pedicures or bouquets of flowers? Surprise her when it’s not her birthday, your anniversary, or Valentine’s Day. He loves expensive Scotch or tickets to the opera? Surprise him. Indulge him!

Try this before you go to bed: spend 15 minutes a night reading out loud from a book. It can be a sensual novel to get things flowing, or a spiritual book to start deep discussion. Take turns picking books. This "love psychology" is designed to get you focused on each other. You’ll learn things you never knew about your partner, which will strengthen your bond.

3. Read a book together.

4. Get a little domestic. A recent study revealed that men who do housework have more sex. If you’re the sloppy one – whether you’re male or female – look around your house. Are there toys everywhere, dishes in the sink, messy beds, and messy toilets? Get busy! The 10 minutes it takes to take on a chore is one easy way to increase romance in your relationship.


5. Give the benefit of the doubt. Your partner probably isn’t deliberately trying to hurt you with her choices, words, or actions. This is where love psychology can get a little complicated, because couples have history together, and sometimes there’s more to being late, for example, than simply being late. However, the more you assume innocence and sincerity on your partner’s part, the more kindly you’ll view him or her. Once you two are seeing each other with compassion and generosity, you’re on your way to strengthening your bonds of love and marriage.

6. Be spiritual together. Whether it’s hiking in nature, meditating, or going to church together – find ways to connect with the universe together. Talk about God, Buddha, Allah, Jehovah. Explore the possibilities of spirituality in your marriage or relationship.

7. Get back to the basics. Learn the general behavior patterns for women and men, and dismiss them if they don’t apply to your partner. For instance, not all women like to shop and not all men forget anniversaries. Not all women need to talk things out and not all men love sports. Verse yourself in the basics of love psychology or general human behavior, and apply them to your partner – or dismiss them if they don’t fit. But, if you remember that most women need to talk about stuff, you’ll be one step closer to building a great romantic relationship!

BE COMPATIBLE BEFORE FALLING IN LOVE

Long-term relationships fail for many reasons, but one of the most common is incompatibility in important areas of your life. It’s all too easy to overlook major differences in the first bloom of love, but will the traits and beliefs that seem endearing in the first months of a new relationship still be acceptable in five, ten, or forty years? The sad thing is that a painful breakup could have been avoided, simply by having an honest discussion of important issues before the relationship got too deep. If you take a hard look at the ways you differ from your new flame, you can spare yourself a broken heart and a lot of time down the road. Here are five questions that you should ask yourself before your relationship gets too serious.

1. Are Our Politics Compatible?
Politics is an issue which is often ignored in the early stages of a relationship. Who wants to think about global warming when you could be planning a romantic getaway? However, people tend to be passionate about their political beliefs, and differing views can cause relationships to explode. Falling in love with people who share your political tendencies will make a smoother road to travel in the future.

2. Are Our Religious Views Compatible?
Opposing religious views might work out for two adults who respect one another, even if you do have difficulty reconciling your agnostic views with his dedication to spending Sunday mornings in church. However, they can become a strain in a long term relationship, especially if you plan to have children.

3. Are Our Patterns of Communication Compatible?
Some couples frequently flare up at each other, shouting and yelling over every little problem – only to be doting on each other five minutes later. Others would be badly hurt, preferring to discuss disagreements calmly and peaceably. Difficulties often arise when communication patterns within the relationship vary widely.

4. Do We Have Similar Visions of the Future?
When you first fall in love, all you can think about is the next time that you can see your new flame again. However, this is the best time to consider the future as well. If you’ve always dreamed of children and she doesn’t want them, or you envision spending your life in the country while he wants the glamour of city life, it will be difficult to combine your differing views into a comfortable life together.

5. Do We Have Similar Ideas About Love?
Everybody has different ideas about how people who are in love should act. Perhaps you show your affection through your actions instead of your words, or you want your independence while your lover wants to spend all your spare time together. The more compatible these opinions, the easier your life together will be.

With love, honest communication, and respect, any of these differences may be overcome. However, knowing the areas in which you and your new love are not a perfect fit will allow you to address these issues early on. If you are not able to come to an agreement, you will know that the relationship will not work before it is too late.

5 Simple Tips to Help You Fall Out of Crazy Love

Do you have any tips for falling out of crazy love?

I'm going to assume from your question that you are talking about a relationship which ended badly for you. The main theme for "falling out of crazy love" under such circumstances is the theme of healing.

You might want to consider the following:

1. Be aware that you have some grieving to do. Even if the relationship ended in anger, it is still a loss.
2. Part of the grieving process involves getting some clarity in two areas: a. an honest assessment of your role in the problems; b. acknowledging that which you did well in the relationship.
3. Be compassionate with yourself. Say some affirmations. Do an act of kindness for yourself. Nurture yourself a little.
4. Do some journaling. Write angry letters that you don't mail
5. Don't be in a big hurry to get into another relationship. Take some time to heal.

There are times when you still love a person but you are not "in crazy love" with them. Perhaps you have been drained by the relationship and are "out of love" for just that reason.

Love Is a Way of Being

Love isn't something that someone causes us to feel, but a state of being that we experience whenever we are fully present in the moment to whatever or whomever is showing up. Love is our natural state, and we experience our natural state whenever the chattering mind is quiet or simply ignored. This state of being is one of peace, acceptance, and crazy love. The only thing that can interfere with experiencing the love of our true nature is absorption in our thoughts and any feelings generated by those thoughts. When we are lost in our mental and emotional world, we miss out on reality, on the real experience of this moment. In our mental world, thoughts about life substitute for real life. When we drop out of these thoughts about ourselves and how our life is going, life can be experienced more purely, and when it is, love naturally flows to whatever or whomever we are experiencing.

Love is a way of being with others. When we are attentive, curious, and interested in others, love naturally flows to them from inside us. This outward flow of love is the experience of love. This flow of love is not dependent on who or what is in front of us, on what someone is doing, or on whether someone is being loving toward us, but on whether we are fully engaged with and accepting of that person and whatever is happening in the moment. Love is a state of being that is activated by giving attention to something or someone.

Many of us experience an absence or lack of love because we are giving our attention to thoughts about life instead of real life. When we give attention to our thoughts about life, we are loving our mental world, and that mental world isn't real, and it is very often a negative world, where nothing and no one is ever good enough. When we are invested in this mental world, our conditioned beliefs, judgments, fears, desires, and expectations seem really important, and these are what cause problems in our relationships. We think we need people to be a certain way for us to love them and be happy with them, but that just isn't true. It just seems true because we tend to choose to love (accept and give attention to) those who look and do things the way we want.

But crazy love doesn't have to be limited in this way. We can choose to love even when others aren't meeting our desires or fitting our fantasies and expectations. Our conditioned ideas and desires are not more important than love, unless we allow them to be, which is a recipe for difficulty in relationship. When we can move beyond our desires, needs, expectations, fantasies, and judgments, then love is possible with anyone at any time. That doesn't mean you would choose to be in a relationship with just anyone, but it is possible to experience love in relating to anyone, since love comes from being interested in, attentive to, and accepting of someone, which is possible when we are not judging them or finding reasons to close our hearts to them and withdraw our interest and attention.
Love is something we have the power to experience because we have the power to give love. When we give love, we experience it; when we withhold it, we don't. The more we can overcome the judgments and other conditioning that cause us to withhold our love (i.e., our acceptance and attention) from others, the more we will experience love. It is as simple as that, but not necessarily easy to put into practice. We tend to really believe our judgments and other ideas that cause us to close our hearts to others, but we don't have to. We can say no to the judgments and other conditioning that interfere with love. When we do so, our experience of life is transformed. Love is readily available whenever we turn away from our judgments and negative conditioning and allow ourselves to be fully engaged with and interested in the real person in front of us.

Did He Really Say "I love you"?

Have you ever been in a relationship with a guy that progressed to the “I love you” stage? That’s the stage of a relationship when things are going well; you are enjoying each other’s company, and you believe the other person feels the same way.

It’s the point where your relationship can become more than just a friendship – it can become a vessel of long-lasting commitments, tender moments, and soulful intimacy. And you can get so excited about the possibilities of a relationship that you hear things that have yet to be said.

Now, I am of the opinion that 50% of relationships could progress to a marriage. All it takes is a willingness to nurture trust and care in a relationship that has marital promise.

But, the relationship gets off course because the man, woman or both make choices that alter the direction of that naturally progressing relationship. One is the assumption that the other has expressed love for you, when indeed they haven’t.

When you believe that someone has said “I love you” when they really haven’t, you begin to expect the other to be there for you way before they’ve decided they want to be there for you. You get hurt, the other person is confused, and the relationship fizzles away into nothingness instead of progressing forward to marriage. It’s sad, because if more people knew what love was, they wouldn’t jump the gun before its time.

For example, here are some phrases that sound like I Love You but really aren’t.

* I love that about you (I admire that aspect of you).
* I think I’m falling for you (I may love you, but I am not sure).
* I could love you forever (There’s a possibility I could love you, but I haven’t made up my mind yet).
* I love being with you (I love the way spending time with you makes me feel).

I mean, it’s hard to ignore what someone says, and some of these phrases do sound like a declaration of love. But they’re not. Saying I love you is sharing with a person that you care for them, want to aid them in life, and want to be responsible for their well-being. It’s a major step, and one that shouldn’t be ignored. If a person loves you, they can become a reliable companion for you.

The difference between I love you and I’m in love with you.

Many times, you’ll hear someone say to another, I love you but I am not in love with you. This usually means “I am motivated to be there for you, but I am not romantically attracted you”. But did you know that people can be in love with you, but not love you?

Being in love with someone is when you admire their body, character, motivations, personality, habits, or abilities. It’s focused on how that person makes you feel when they are around you and how much better the world is when you get to share their company.

But loving someone requires more than that.

Loving someone requires two things. First, you have to believe there is some way you can help that person. You have to see a way you can show care, and the more opportunities you find, the more you believe you can love them. Second, you have to make a decision to be there for them. Even if you see there’s a way you can nurture, protective, encourage, suffer with, or aid a person, you still have to chose to do all those things, regardless of how that decision will affect your own life. Loving someone is less about what the person does you for, and more about what you can do for them.

So, sometimes, when you “think” you hear a person say they love you, they’re really saying they’re in love with you. They like you, they admire you, or they are aroused by you. The focus is on what you do for them, not what they can do for you. It’s beautiful, but it’s not enough to begin sharing crazy love with that person. You have to wait for the “I love you” both in what they say, and what they do.

Here’s how love acts:

Love hurts when you are injured, and rejoices in your gladness.

Love protects you from the world’s harsh realities and comforts you in the deepest places of your soul.

Love bends.

Love forgives you when you make a mistake, over and over again.

Love needs you to have the fullest life possible, and makes sure it helps you experience that life, one day at a time.

Love gives.

Love sees you at your best when you are at your worst.

Love reminds you of your future more than focusing on your past.

Love hopes.

Love is love and nothing else.

When a man and woman say “I love you” it’s because they want the other person to know they have made the decision to be there for them. And they want to hear if the other person feels the same way about them. It’s a turning point of any relationship, because now you can judge the other person’s intentions based on their actions.

Some people will still say I love you, and not mean it. But many people won’t even go there if they don’t mean it, because now they are really on the line. A friendship can go on for months and months, but once you say I love you, it’s either on or off, yes or no, is you is or is you ain’t!

So please, only say “I love you” when you mean it, and give the benefit of the doubt when someone else says it. If they really love you, you’ll know it because they will begin to treat you with love, if they haven’t already. And until they do say so, enjoy the time you share with your friends, and wait on love to blossom in its own time. If love is there for you, you will have it. And if it’s not, love may be waiting for you in the heart of someone else close by.